2 Samuel 13:1 (NIV)
In the course of time, Amnon son of David fell in love with Tamar, the beautiful sister of Absalom son of David.
2 Samuel 13:1-2 (MSG)
Some time later, this happened: Absalom, David’s son, had a sister who was very attractive. Her name was Tamar. Amnon, also David’s son, was in love with her.
“It happened afterwards that Absalom the son of David had a beautiful sister whose name was Tamar, and Amnon [her half brother] the son of David was in love with her.” -AMPLIFIED
And so the fulfillment of Nathan’s prophecy begins. “ Now, therefore, the sword will never depart from your house, because you despised me and took the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be your own.’ “This is what the Lord says: ‘Out of your own household I am going to bring calamity upon you. Before your very eyes I will take your wives and give them to one who is close to you, and he will lie with your wives in broad daylight. You did it in secret, but I will do this thing in broad daylight before all Israel.'”-2 Samuel 12:10-12 (NIV)
We are going to see that David’s abuse of power was a sin passed down to his son Amnon. Amnon’s abuse of power was against his half-sister Tamar, whom he raped. In revenge David’s son Absalom, again Amnon’s half-brother, Tamar’s full brother, killed Amnon. We are going to see that the trouble in David’s family stems back to the same sins that he had battled with; adultery, murder and deception.
This part of David’s story, and ultimately His-story (God’s), is both sad and discouraging to say the least. To read of the sin of not only David, but the sins of his children brings sadness to our heart. We expected more from our great hero and his offspring. This is a reminder to us all though that we are all born into a sinful world with a sinful nature. And if we are not careful to listen to that voice of the Holy Spirit, we too can fall into sin very easily.
I do not want to spend a lot of time looking at the details of what happened between Amnon, Tamar and Absalom. Suffice it to say that Amnon lusted after his half-sister and acted on that lust. In fact, many commentators say that his affection for sister went from love, to lust to hate. The hate came into play once his act of sin had been committed. Scripture is very telling in how strong his hatred of Tamar was after he raped her. “No sooner had Amnon raped her than he hated her — an immense hatred. The hatred that he felt for her was greater than the love he’d had for her. “Get up,” he said, “and get out!” -2 Samuel 13:15 (MSG)
Absalom heard of what Amnon had done to his sister Tamar and was seething with anger. David also found out and was enraged. They both handle their anger in inappropriate ways.
1. Absalom: Insisted that Tamar keep quiet about the whole situation, telling no one. He took her into his private home and cared for her. He also spent two years plotting, planning and brooding over how he would take revenge on his brother and eventually he did just that.
2. David: Sadly, David did nothing to discipline his first-born, Amnon, for the sin he had committed. Scripture tells us, “King David heard the whole story and was enraged, but he didn’t discipline Amnon. David doted on him because he was his firstborn. Absalom quit speaking to Amnon — not a word, whether good or bad — because he hated him for violating his sister Tamar.”-2 Samuel 13:21-22 (MSG)
“David was reigning over Israel, but sin and death were reigning within his own family (Rom 5:14,17,21). God had forgiven David’s sins (12:13), but David was discovering that the consequences of forgiven sin are very painful. God had blessed David with many sons (1 Chron 28:5), but now the Lord would turn some of those blessings into curses (Mal 2:1-2). “Your own wickedness will correct you, and your backslidings will rebuke you” (Jer 2:19 NKJV). The events in chapters 13 and 14 unfold like a tragic symphony in five movements: from love to lust (13:1-14), from lust to hatred (13:15-22), from hatred to murder (13:23-36), from murder to exile (13:37-39), and from exile to reconciliation (14:1-23).” -The Bible Exposition Commentary: Old Testament
What can we take away from this part of David’s story, you may ask? The need to deal with sin and temptation immediately.
Lord, help me, I pray, to flee from temptation. I do not want to be messing around with sin. You have told me to resist the devil and he will flee. Help me to do just that, resist. I do not want to be entertaining him. I know I need to keep my focus firmly on you; so that I will not be enticed. Help me, Lord. I want to be pleasing in your sight.